Why I hated goals
There was a time in my life when I HATED goals. I rejected the idea of them. I hated how I felt pressured by them.
I felt like goals just said to me: “you aren’t doing enough. you need to do more.”
And for someone who knows how to push themself very hard, I was tired. And I didn’t want more.
It got to a point where I could no longer go to the gym or go for a run with my husband. He would want me to set a target (more weight, longer run) and I wanted him to buzz off.
To me, if I showed up for the workout I was already winning. All I had space for was mini micro targets. Get your big goal out of here. Eventually he understood that and let showing up be enough for me.
But here’s the thing. It wasn’t the goal (or my husband) that was ever the problem. It was my relationship to the idea of a goal. I was at my limit and I had no space for more. To me, a goal was about pushing and achieving and more more more.
So if you’re here, at your limit, and you hate goals, too – I get it. And I want to let you in on a secret….
We get to be curious about a different kind of goal – LESS.
About doing the MINIMIM amount required. About taking things OFF the list. About REST. And SPACE. And INCHES not miles.
What a relief to allow myself to believe that doing less is a valid choice – a valid thing to aim for. The pressure went away and I felt lighter, more at ease.
The best part about all of this: I have access to a wider variety of choices now. Before, I resisted choosing ‘less’ and it limited my experience of life. Because choosing ‘more’ all the time is not the only choice.
One of the results of coaching is having access to more choices. And who doesn’t want that?
Oh….and we also look at goals 🙂 Learn more.